At this point our roles reversed, I basically became Anna’s full time caregiver, Denise obtained a job working for University Hospitals Rainbow Babies and Children’s Hospital in their Neonatal Intensive Care Unit. After what seemed like a lifetime we finally once again had readily accessible medical care.
One of the first things we did was get a genetic screening for Denise, Anna and myself. In December, 2015 we finally got the result; Anna’s “non-diagnosed developmental delay” was caused by something called a CHAMP1 mutation, and it was not caused by any of the medicines that Denise had been on for so long. After 22 years we were able to stop feeling guilty that something we had done had resulted in how Anna was.
So now we had a name and reason for what happened to Anna, but to be honest this did not really mean very much to us at the start, but we had a label now at least. Our geneticist told us at the time that this condition was so rare (we think Anna was the 8th or 9th person diagnosed at this time) that treatments, possible other health related issues, the potential full effect of the mutation, none of that was known and we should just come back in another year or so when we could get medical updates on what was being learned and studied about this CHAMP1 thing. She also suggested we do our own research on Google to see what we could learn about it.
I do not remember exactly how but I think that the discovery of the Facebook support group was made while searching Google about CHAMP1. We joined the group and honestly, as best I can remember I believe Jeff and Katis both reached out to us within a day, introducing themselves, the group, all that stuff. People started sending friend requests and we started paying more attention to what this whole thing was about.
Whether you are a CHAMP parent or something else in a similar position I am positive everyone can relate to how wearing it is if you are a 24/7 caregiver; not only the hardest thing you can be asked to do but it is mentally and physically taxing and extremely isolating. Even though Anna had been exposed to our family and friends for her whole life most people “just don’t get it”, I believe that unless you walk in our shoes you never can.
Right from the start it was a great relief to see what was being posted by the group, it turned out that someone in Wales had a daughter that was very much like Anna, that someone in California had advice on how to deal with sleep issues, someone else’s CHAMP had been on a drug Anna was on and they tried something else that worked better. All of a sudden we were not alone, these people lived our life, had our issues and “got it”, regardless of where they were in the world, what language they spoke or what they believed, we had that connection, a bond.
Moving ahead to the present, today Anna attends an Adult Day Program that we are blessed to be part of. We are both retired and are fortunate that we no longer have to balance the work/family issues most of you have to. Honestly how working parent’s, or single parent’s of CHAMP’s do it is a supreme effort in resiliency. You are all true CHAMP1ONs in our book.